Friday, December 28, 2012
Now to answer the second question, why adopt a little girl?
I have several answers... One, who doesn't want pretty pink bows, tootoos and all the frilliness that comes with parenting a little girl? Some of you may be saying, "me, me!!" You would rather be blessed with slugs and snails and puppy-dog tails any day over having to deal with sugar and spice and everything nice. A few years ago I would have said the same thing, but now I have been blessed with my very own little boy and today I think I am ready for a little sugar and spice. So, my first answer, not necessarily in order of priority, importance or answer-ability is "why not?" If we are going to adopt again, wouldn't it be fun to have a girl too?
I could not ask for a better child or one who is more suited to our family. Droiy was born about 4 months before Ben and I met back on 12/31/07, but I know that God was preparing us to be his parents even before we knew him. He was meant for us and we were meant for him. Even tonight, when he was being a little pill and getting mad at Ben because he had not seen him most of the day, I know that little boy is just who God had in mind for us to parent. So, I have faith that, as we are getting ready for this next child, we will be just right for each other again.
So...two, because a little sister is what Droiy has been asking for... He prays for his "new baby sister" as he calls her, he talks about saving his old toys for his "new baby sister," and he talks about all the things he is going to teach his "new baby sister." No, we would not make the enourmous, life-altering decision to adopt a girl just because our 5 year old asks for one, but it helps. Actually, he has changed his request a little bit. He figured out that right now there are 2 boys in the family (Ben and Droiy) and 2 girls in the family (me and our dog Molly). So he asked for two new siblings - a brother and a sister. He was concerned that the girls would out-number the boys, so he wants one of both, just to make it even. Likewise, Ben and I have both discussed it and we would be open to having siblings if they became available. We have been approved by our adoption agency, the social worker that performed our home study and the United States Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) for two children of either gender. So, Droiy just might get his wish.
Reason number three, if you have ever watched their videos or have visited The Girl Effect website, you would understand why changing the life of just one girl can have such a tremendous impact. An educated girl reinvests 90% of her future income in her family versus 35% for a boy. Changing the life of just one girl can have far-reaching effects. You may ask, "if you adopt the girl out of Ghana, is she really going to have an impact there?" She may not, but as a family we have decided to reinvest in the countries that we adopt our children from. We are currently supporting several ministries in Haiti and I am helping to lead a group of college students from Corban on a mission trip to Haiti this summer. It is our goal to keep that connection and to continue to work in Haiti, so that one day Droiy would have the opportunity to return and do the same. We hope to have a similar impact in Ghana by adopting a girl from there and allowing her to have the opportunity to return to work with the people from that country.
Finally, it is a little scary to start working on a second child. I worry, just like every young parent probably does, whether they are planning to adopt or have a biological child. I worry that Droiy may think that we love him less if he has to share us with a sibling or two. I know there will be jealousy; it is probably inevitable. We have asked, if we get siblings, that the older of the two would be a girl. This may help with some of the competition that may naturally occur between siblings. However, I don't think we can always safeguard against every problem that may come our way. Just as God was preparing Droiy, Ben and I for each other, I believe he is preparing us for this new child or children. We are approved to adopt up to two children who are at least a year younger than Droiy. So, when the time comes, we will find out who they are and we will know that we were meant for each other.
Keep us in your prayers. We still have about $20,000 more to pay for this adoption. So far, God has provided the funds. Which, praise God! I just added things up today and, since May, we have put nearly $13,000 toward this adoption! I didn't know we had that type of extra money. Somehow (through the Lord's faithfulness, of course) the money has been provided. We will be applying for an adoption grant through Show Hope in the next couple of weeks. Pray that God will continue to provide and help with the funds that we need. Or, if you are interested in helping, click on this link: Ghana Adoption Fund.
Keep checking back. A little more about Ghana will be coming next with and answer to my third question....Why should she be from Ghana?
Sunday, September 30, 2012
What a big man!
Monday, September 17, 2012
However, to us, it seems like three questions in one:
1. Why adopt?
2. Why adopt a little girl?
3. Why should she be from Ghana?
So, we'll start by answering this first one. As James writes in the New Testament, "religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is to look after orphans and widows in their distress..." (James 1:27) While this does not mean that everyone should adopt; we do believe that God has specifically called us to adopt our children. Droiy was born in August of 2007, before we (Ben and Sarah) had even met each other. Yet, it is as though he was meant for us and we were meant for him.
So why adopt again? Why not support an orphan? We do support orphans; we sponsor several orphans in Haiti. Yet, we knew we wanted to have more children. Droiy wanted a sibling and we want more children. Our first adoption made us realize that we could not love a child more than we love Droiy. Whether the child is biological or adopted, they are our "own." Some people just do not feel that they are capable of loving an adopted child as much as they love their biological children; I know this because I have had that conversation with many friends. So adoption is not for them. You are not a bad person or less giving of a person if you are not called to adopt. God has other plans for you.
God has called us to expand our family through adoption. If you know our son, you know why. He is a loving, caring boy. He does have his attachment issues, like every adopted child has. He went through a difficult adjustment period. He is happy, but will always have some attachment concerns. God gave us the grace to be able to handle the adjustments and the attachment issues. Therefore we know that God will give us the strength to support another adopted child's needs.
Does that answer question number 1? Probably not completely! What we know is that we are trying to be sensitive to the Lord's leading and He seems to be pointing in this direction.
This adoption is projected to cost about $30,000 and we are trying to raise some of the money. If you are interested in helping, click on this link: Contribute to our adoption fund.
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
The Ghana adoption process has just started. Our application was accepted by Faith International Adoption agency and now we are starting the homestudy and dossier process. No specific child has been identified this time. We will be going through the traditional international referral process this time. We will keep you informed as everything progresses. Your prayers and encouragement are appreciated.
Saturday, July 9, 2011
Sunday, January 23, 2011
On a lighter note, our son is becoming a Rock Star! He asked for a guitar for Christmas and his sister picked one out that fits him perfectly! We had to re-string it since he is left handed, but he is turning into a very talented musician. Here is proof:
No autographs please.
Sunday, December 19, 2010
For those of you asking about the grant situation: We have sent out our first grant application to the adoption aid organization called Show Hope. You can find out more info about it at showhope.org
We have also been asked to open an account for donations. We have been to the bank and are working on that. We'll let you know when it's all done. Thanks for all your prayers and love.
"For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord!" Luke 2:11